Why I don’t kiss my grandchildren…

Why don't I kiss my grandchildren? Once upon a time, it was normal to kiss & hug little ones. After all, babies are irresistible and children need to know they're loved. But time moves on; many of us try to learn more and do better. 

Now we have greater awareness of keeping children safe and teaching them about bodily autonomy. The fact is that children owe no one affection - under any circumstances. Not Grandma Zelda, Uncle Frank or the neighbor next door. 

As my grand babies have been born, initially maintaining respectful boundaries was focused on protecting them from germs. As they get older, asking before giving a hug honors their right to their own boundaries. 

Some of my friends have been surprised about this. I am not. My sons and their wives are the parents of my “grands”. Honoring their values and parameters is non-negotiable. This is their time to make decisions about their children's welfare.

I love my grandchildren - each one of them. Currently that includes 4 on earth, 2 in heaven and 1 on the way. My role as a grandmother definitely looks different than I might have imagined. Still, we have to take life as it comes and stay present.